This morning Neirin disappeared. We couldn’t find him. We searched and searched, at first with irritation and then with growing panic. Huwyl and I called, looked in every room and called some more. I looked outside, I ran to the pond my heart pounding, he was no where.
We searched the house again and again, I looked in his cupboard, under the beds, in every nook and cranny I could think of. It took about 30 seconds. I called his name but no response. I could hear Huwyl outside, calling his brother, searching everywhere; inside the silence was complete. Choking.
At 20 minutes I was hysterical, I phoned Stephen screaming, I didn’t know what to do. At 25 minutes I was in the car driving up and down the road than runs by the farm. He’s never gone up the drive or near the road, I knew he wasn’t there but I couldn’t think where else to look. Over and over I kept saying This is Hell, I’m in Hell. I feared that I had slipped through the ice into the bad reality, that somehow madness had taken over.
At 30 minutes I think my heart stopped beating.
My mind kept saying that he couldn’t have left the house. He was upstairs asleep, Huwyl and I were in the office downstairs, we would have heard him come downstairs, we would have heard the door. I ran back upstairs, to the rooms I had already searched, the rooms I’d run through calling then screaming his name, crying into the silence.
I gave it one last try, I calmed my voice and called “Neirin, Neirin darling are you there? Tell Mummy where you are darling, I have ice cream for you, we’re going to eat ice cream”. Then I heard him crying. I heard him calling me and I felt like I was born again. I ran into his room and still couldn’t see him, he’d tucked himself in the back of his cupboard and stayed there in silence. Silence.
I held him so hard and he clung to me, I cried and sobbed and asked over and over Why did you hide? All he could tell me was I don’t know, I just did it. We called Daddy to tell him we’d found him, I cried on the phone for a while as Neirin clung to me. We went and found Huwyl and he sobbed and hugged him just as I had.
Then we called Grampa, who informed me that when he was three he used to do the same thing. Huh. I suppose we know who to blame then. Then he told Huwyl a story to cheer him up, a story about Sammy the Seagull and his friend Neville who gets lost in a cave. They found him in the end and we all felt better.
Eventually we had to go out and run errands, then we went to the thrift store and bought crazy stuff for the dressing up box. Whatever the kids pointed at I bought, they got crazy robes and silly hats; Neirin is now the proud owner of a stuffed tiger. A really big stuffed tiger.
On the way home I bought them ice cream. My heart still hasn’t settled down, I think it might take a while.
I have no words of wisdom or final finishing line to this story, but this quote seems to fit,
It is sometimes an appropriate response to reality to go insane. ~ Phillip K Dick.
I think I need to lie down. With the children in full view.
11 thoughts on “Missing”
Oh my. My heart stopped just reading this. This is me, giving you the biggest over-the-internet hug imaginable.
Ooooh I understand your concern (no, panick is closer to it, right?). I have felt this several times, not for so long though. But losing sight of my kids in a crowd or a shop for a few seconds has already frozen my heart – stopped it – stabbed it. So…30 minutes of this…well well well, that justifies madness! And I can’t help feeling a rush of desperate compassion for those who have come across a less happy ending…I totally support your shopping fever by the way!! After such a moment of fear, indulging in ice cream and toys just feels alright 😉
This must be any mother’s worst nightmare, and poor Huwyl must have felt so helpless and frightened too. I truly felt every minute with my heart in my mouth. I hope writing it all down has helped.
Oooof. Thank goodness. I was starting to panic myself!
Oh Emma, that is an eternity!!! You poor thing. I’m so glad Neirin was safe and I hope everyone’s nerves settle after some long cuddles. A big hug to you guys.
That was the most heart stopping – and then heart wrenching – post ever! I’m going to suggest that you keep the really big stuffed tiger in the cupboard, so there’s no room for anyone else to… ahem… hide in there.
Boy, am I glad you found that little man.
I was starting to panic myself, too. Just by reading this. I´m glad he is fine.
Thank you to everyone for your extremely kind words : ) It felt weirdly cathartic to write it down and exceptionally heart warming to receive such lovely thoughts, words and internet hugs. Now I just need to get a piece of elastic/handcuffs so that he can’t stray more than 2 feet away until he is around 25. That’s healthy right?
Hugs to you all xxx
I am so glad he was fine. Of course you will never forget it! My little sister disappeared for about an hour one summer day. My parents were frantic of course. They were discussing calling someone to dive in the well (You can imagine how much searching and calling had gone on, to reach this conclusion) when my Mom heard her crying. She was in the attic. Alone. We had been playing up there that morning. She had been there for at least 6 hours by herself, and she was about three. Yeah, parental GPS for kids installed at birth, could make a fortune.
Parental GPS sounds like a great idea! I definitely can’t take the stress of any more incidents like that, it aged me by about 10 years!