I think it is inevitable that I spent the weekend thinking quite a bit about being a mum. What it means to me, others that I know, how it has changed my life. Strangely I chose to celebrate being a mum by leaving my family and going off for a day of relaxation with a friend! On Saturday my lovely friend Karen (who writes a beautiful blog here by the way) whisked me off to a spa where we spent the day popping our bodies in and out of hot pools, a steam room and freezing but refreshing waters. In between we had the pleasure of time to chat, catch up, muse even. A luxury for two busy mamas!
Sunday was a work day and I will tell you all about that in another post (tractor teething troubles and other farm stories) but a day shared with my boys. But also a day of thinking about my own Mum and missing her as I always do. And I started thinking about all the other mamas I know, so filled with love for their children, so dedicated, hard working, creative and enduring. It occurs to me how lucky I am to know these women.
I’ve learned from the women that mothered before me, who are now grandmothers enjoying a new phase of life. Or those whose children are a little older, teaching me their wisdom, encouraging through their experience. Reminding me ‘you will survive’. And sometimes it is a new mother, that joy and intensity of the first year, reminding me of how far we’ve come, how far we still have to go. And there are the mothers who are raising children they didn’t birth, through adoption and marriage, or those without their own children who channel their maternal energies into guiding other people’s children or families on their own journey.
And there is the inspiration all around me, the new ideas, different thoughts, novel ways of doing. I really couldn’t get by without this community of women to learn from, share with, lean on, brag to, commiserate with. Some I know only from a ‘cyber’ relationship, others have been in my life since I was born. The one thing they all have in common is their extraordinary hearts.
I can’t imagine my life without my children, but more than that, I can’t imagine myself without the changes that being a mother have wrought. The challenges, the hardships, the learning, the struggles with exhaustion and patience; the triumphs, the joys, the extreme feeling of love and devotion. Who would I have been without them? I don’t know and can’t even think it possible, they are so much at the centre of my life and who I am. Just as we were to our mothers, just as they were to us.
7 thoughts on “On Motherhood”
What an absolutely lovely post Emma! I too am amazed at this person called “Mom” who was burried deep down inside me. I feel like I must have just been a shell before motherhood , what strength and joy it brings.
I simply can’t imagine you as a ‘non mum’ my friend, it simply infuses everything that you are. Plus you are great at it, you inspire me all the time, I’m very grateful to have you as a mum-friend : )
they really have changed my worldview for the better. and every day they are teaching me. happy days to you!!! ❤
Good to know you have such lovely people surrounding you and supporting you through your journey. xx
I’m very lucky to have such great friends and family xxx
Emma, beautiful, thoughtful post – thank you. Here is a prayer I emailed all my mama friends last week. Thought you too might like it. Love Katie x
For new mothers, coming to terms with new responsibility;
For expectant mothers, wondering and waiting;
For those who are tired, stressed or depressed;
For those who struggle to balance the tasks of work and family;
For those who are unable to feed their children due to poverty;
For those whose children have physical, mental or emotional disabilities;
For those who have children they do not want;
For those who raise children on their own;
For those who have lost a child;
For those who care for the children of others;
For those whose children have left home;
And for those whose desire to be a mother has not been fulfilled.
Bless all mothers, that their love may be deep and tender,
And that they may lead their children to know and do what is good,
Living not for themselves alone, but for God and for others.
Hear our prayer.
Thanks for this beautiful prayer Katie, I hope you don’t mind me sharing this, I think it is something everyone could benefit from : )